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Transforming Your Inner Victim

I Have an Inner Victim? Me? No way!

By Joyce Jackson

Achieving our desires, including love, career success and happiness, involves dissolving our blocks.  We are naturally wired for love, success, happiness and security. However, we go about throwing all kinds of blocks and walls in our way based on fear. Wrapping ourselves in the cape of victimization is one of those blocks. Dissolving and transforming those inner victims of ours smooth’s the way to fulfillment.

No one likes to admit it, but we all have elements of an inner victim inside us. It can creep its way into our lives in sabotaging ways. When you can recognize some of the characteristics of your inner victim, you can change it and dissolve the blocks that hold you back.

Here are some clues your inner victim is at work:

  1. Generalizing statements: a.”Everyone in my profession is like this.” b. “If I’m going to have THIS, I’m just going to have to sacrifice THAT.”
  1. Comparisons: a. “Everyone else is doing well or accomplishing their goals.” b. “If my ex (mother, father, sibling, boss, politician, the economy, etc) hadn’t interfered then things would be fine.”
  1. All or Nothing Thinking: a.”This relationship is the best one I’ve ever had. If it doesn’t work out, then there’s no one else out there for me.” b. “If I don’t get a publisher, then there’s no way I can get my book out there.”
  1. Procrastination & Avoidance: a.”This just isn’t the right time to make a change.” b. “I’m just too busy to address this or get this done.”
  1. Brooding: a.”Nothing good can come of this.” b. “I’ve tried to change that but it doesn’t work.”
  1. Blame: a. Putting everything in the hands of someone else – even God. b. Refusing to accept responsibility for the role we play in our own drama.

Add up all those statements and this doesn’t sound like a person whom any of us would want to be around. However, we all hold some of those beliefs some of the time! You CAN do something about it and dismiss the victim.

Here are some trusted ways you can send them packing and transform the inner victim into the inner champion: first, take careful notice of how and when these feelings and beliefs are surfacing and be willing to challenge them every time they arise. If there is more than one area, just pick one. Ask yourself, “Am I willing to accept that an alternative possibility may also be true?”

Second, ask yourself what details you are willing to change. That is the biggest step in real, permanent transformation.

Third, focus on the bigger picture, on themes rather than the story. Sometimes we get so caught up in extraneous details they redefine the story altogether. Use the I Need Principle, as in, “I need a job.”  For example, a sour economy doesn’t mean that you can’t look for another job.  But that detail derails a lot of people. That’s when we lose sight of what’s most important: of who we are and what we really need.

The details don’t matter! When you redirect your focus on the main issue, it dissolves the inner victim and allows your power center, will and source of boundaries. That’s where you dissolve the victim and let your true self shine through.

 

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I will share my thoughts on Non-victimization at another time ❤

Namaste

Sindy

 

Outside the Box

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17 Things Open Minded People Do Differently

By Saso Denkovik

Enchanted, unpredictable, imaginative, intuitive, curious, emotionally strong people … Some people will say that this people are a little strange, different or in other words – creative!  There is something charming and irresistible in this people, it’s like they see the world from another perspective, and the what they do is they make choices that are different from what other people usually do.

1.    They get inspired at the least expected moment. They cannot decide when the next great idea will come. It simply appears, in the least expected way at the least expected moment.

2.    They daydream. A lot. You can see them, but at the same time they are not here. They can fly away with their thoughts at any time during a conversation. You should not get mad at them, it’s just the way they are.

3.    They get bored easily. They need to stay stimulated in order to stay active. They will not focus on what they do not like. Call them ADHD or whatever you like, but that’s just a part of their genius.

4.    They watch the world with the eyes of a child. There is a part of them that never grows up and maybe that is actually a secret, to see the world through the eyes of a child.

5.    They’ve been told to get a real job. It’s not easy to be accepted as a creative person, especially when your loved ones expect something different from you. Truly creative people will follow their dreams.

6.     They will follow their heart, though often their mind thinks differently. They say that creative people are less worried about problems and take more risk. It can bring thousands of failures, and million pleasures.

7.    They are lost in time. Once creating they are lost in time and space, they forget to eat, drink and even sleep. When the words, colors or ideas start to come out of their minds anything nothing else matters.

8.     They work when you sleep and sleep when you’re working. As we said, number 1, inspiration comes at unexpected moments. You just need to accept and make something great out of it.

9.  Where most people see a difficulty, they see an opportunity. They see the bright side of things and brilliant escaping trouble in unusual ways.

10. They fall in love with their work, and tomorrow they hate it.  It is still a mystery, but there is some sort of process that makes them changing their mind about their creations.

11. They hate what they have just created, but will totally love it 12 hours later, just as number 11, and it can happen.

12. They are humble and proud at the same time. They are always ready to learn, but it will be extremely proud and confident when it comes to their ideas and creations.

13. They are always looking to new ways to express themselves. Whether you’re a pro or you’re simply a creative person, you know that there is only one way of expressing creativity. If you are a photographer, you’ll probably love to create in many different ways. The same is true for artists, art directors, writers and other creative people in general.

14. They see the other side of the coin. They can always observe the situation from different points of view.

15. They do not like limits. Rules and boundaries are not for them. Many popular artists in history have even been labeled as rebels.

16. They often do not like numbers. They are great and really may surprise you from time to time, but try to give them do the math, you’ll be surprised how much they do not like numbers.

17. They are excellent observers. Often people observe and notice  even the smallest details. People and actually everything can be an inspiration for their next idea.

Spirit Science article link. Great website.

Got The Cosmos In Me

Universe Lady

 

Well friends….summer vacation is OVER, I started Fall Semester yesterday on Monday, the New Moon, and the end of the Lion Gate Portal. So….the frequency of my favorite activity, blogging, will be less. I hope to still be able to do my other favorite pastime, group meditation. Please if you are so inclined, send me good focused energy.

I don’t think I actually told you that I did not succeed in my Algebra class in the Spring, so I am retaking it, 2 English classes, and an English Lit class. I will be doing a lot of reading, writing and arithmetic….I might even have to be taught to the tune of the hickory stick.

So I hope to post when I can, but if I am missing, you know why.

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School days, school days

Dear old Golden Rule days

‘Reading and ‘riting and ‘rithmetic

Taught to the tune of the hick’ry stick

You were my queen in calico

I was your bashful, barefoot beau

And you wrote on my slate, “I Love You, Joe”

When we were a couple o’ kids

Namaste

Sindy

Follow Your Dreams

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This is a wonderful and positive article I came across this morning.

10 Habits of People Who Follow Their Dreams

By Esra Sam

1. They see challenges as opportunities

Most people interpret fears as obstacles and tend to run away from them. People who live their purpose successfully have developed the capacity to see fear as a sign of what they really need to go for and put all their courage and energy into it.

2. They see life as a game.

Having this vision of life opens up space for playfulness and creativity instead of limitation. This also cultivates qualities of resilience, problem solving and confidence that helps them take risks to get to the next big place.

3. Living the life they want is the only option.

They’re so committed to making their dreams a reality that they banish any possibility of a backup plan whatsoever from their mind. They don’t think things like, “If it doesn’t work, I’ll just go get a job.”

4. They always speak their truth.

They’re able to speak it because they make a conscious effort to connect to their truest desires, their inner voice, and their spirituality without fear of judgment. This connection is typically fostered through meditation, journaling, being mentored and being surrounded by like minded-people.

5. They aren’t just dreamers: they act on their desires.

Instead of getting stuck in their dreams, they snap right into action, no matter what it takes. Whether it’s quitting a job, getting out of a relationship that holds them back, investing in themselves or moving to a new location, they have the courage to do it. They do this by listening to, and then acting on, their intuition.

6. They expect and know that they deserve the best.

They expect that what they want is going to happen as if it were an inner-knowing. They expect and feel they deserve to earn well, do what they love, serve others using their gifts. The secret is that they still expect the best even when they don’t have all the answers as to how it’s going to happen.

7. They have no fear or guilt when asking for what they want.

Because they’re so connected to their passions, they aren’t afraid to ask for what they want. In fact, they understand that their success depends on others, so asking for what they want is part of the deal. They set their boundaries and express their needs without fear, guilt or shame. Best of all, this is a trait that earns them respect from others.

8. They create their own rules.

They create their own rules instead of fitting into society’s norms. They make decisions from a place of what they want to have instead of what they think they can have. This gives them the freedom to design their destiny.

9. They’ve learned to be comfortable being uncomfortable.

They don’t get stuck in having all the answers, making things perfect or trying to gain comfort by controlling everything. Instead, they’re aware that they’re not going to see the next step until they make the decision to move forward despite the discomfort.

10. They have teachers, mentors and role models.

Having teachers increases their awareness. They clearly understand that each time they’re getting ready to pursue their dreams all their limitations are going to come up to the surface so that they can let go of them. Having role models and mentors helps them quickly identify where they’re stuck so that they can immediately change their results.

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Happy Birthday to my Best Friend

Pamella D’Pella

Love you

Namaste

Sindy

Putting On The Ritz

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Hey Friends. Whoa, what a week, my head is spinning. I haven’t had so much going on in such a long time. However I just haven’t had the blog time I am used to. So sorry to my blogger friends if I have missed or haven’t read post, I just don’t have the time right now. I try to and get overwhelmed, I have like 300 emails many are post notifications.

I had taken about an hour to make this post on F. Scott Fitzgerald’s, The Great Gatsby. I had written out all these beautiful passages and I accidently deleted it. I cannot move on without completing that post. lol

I hope all the American’s have a great Thanksgiving. The rest of you know it is a time of gratitude and feasting. Lots of food. If anyones hungry come on over, I am cooking.

Edited to add: My next Follower will be my 500th~ I remember seeing someone had 500 Followers and thinking one day. So it took 18 months.

Namaste

Sindy

Favorite Things

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Venus Revealed Part 3

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I was reminded on some of my favorite things~

Purple, Indigo & lavender hydrangeas

Birds playing in my back yard

Being bathed as a child by Mom

Freedom

Chocolate ice cream

Sacred connected intimacy

Creating art

The Smurf Theme song

Riding a Bicycle

Chocolate Cake

Laughter

and entertaining blogs:

It was a new Follower, Glorialana’s Blog, that reminded me of a very happy memory, my first Barbie. Her last two post just brought me such happy memories; Dior Doll Lesson & Saint Barbie.  I am so happy to have discovered this delightful blog, I believe she came to me from Professor Ik.

I also want to include some other blogs, I read and follow, many friends~

Lily Wight, Kira’s Closet, Arrow in Flight, Renard Moreau Presents,  Cupcakes and Angels, Not Just sassy on the Inside, Pisces, Endless Light and Love, RealityShifters Blog, The Ptero Card, Bloomlisa, Karen Kubiko, and so, so many others…..later

In the meanwhile I think I’ll dance~

Musica

Namaste

Sindy

Freedom

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Tower of Babel painting by Katherine Ace

Freedom Train my  funky musical choice

or  classic choice Me and Bobby McGee

Well today I will talk a bit about freedom, real freedom and not just merely the illusion of freedom. When you think of freedom, what comes to mind? Maybe riding your bicycle down a hill on a summers day, with the wind against your skin, knowing you can get an ice cold soda at the destination, or maybe its a quiet walk in the woods, riding a motorcycle, running??? Whatever elicits the feeling of freedom, find that memory and feel, embody those sensations.

Real freedom for me comes from non-attachment. It was about 3 years ago when I decided to leave Los Angeles, my home of over 30 years and move away. I just got rid of stuff, having lived in the same apartment for 18 years, I had amassed a lot of stuff. I gave away my nice bed, my television, antique hand painted cabinet from India, clothes, art, rugs, furniture, almost everything. This feeling came over me that was new and different, it felt light, I had to sit and search my mind for a word to label the feeling. I called my friend and said, “ST, I feel free, this is what freedom feels like.” It was an adult freedom and not necessarily the same carefree childhood freedom as the bike on a summers day but a freedom of letting go of attachments to stuff, letting go of our attachment to a place, an identity, or even a location. The trick is to not create new attachments…Haha..Right! Not so easy. As an observation and an exercise in my spiritual evolution at least I know what to work toward.

Freedom from notions, feelings, possessions, concepts, paradigms et cetera, and so forth.

So today I wish you freedom.

Today I embody freedom.

Today I give gratitude for the freedom I enjoy!

Namaste~

Just wanted to link my friend Bella’s blog post today~ Declare Your Independence

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Sindy

One more Freedom tune.