Listening Love

Listen What The Man Said

For me this article goes beyond astrology and regards conscious loving listening.

 

April Elliott Kent’s Big Sky Astrology

Gemini Full Moon: The Gift of Listening

When my friend’s son was small, he talked incessantly. Born with Venus in loquacious Gemini, he jabbered constantly about stories he’d read or what he’d seen on television that morning. His mother is a patient woman, but eventually the sheer quantity of words wore her down. One day, she recalls, driving along with her child chattering away in the passenger seat, she suddenly couldn’t take any more. “Could you please just stop talking for one minute?” she begged her small son. “And immediately,” she told me, “his little eyes filled up with tears. I couldn’t have felt more awful!”

Few feelings are as wounding as not being listened to, especially by those we love. In his book The Road Less Traveled, M. Scott Peck characterizes true, attentive listening as one of the greatest gifts of love we can offer another person – and one of the most difficult. There are times when it’s easier, of course — in the first flush of passion, when your loved one’s every utterance is like honey, or when your toddler is first learning to talk. But to really listen even when you’re not in the mood, when you’re heard the same story a dozen times, when you’re worried about something else, when there’s nothing in it for you personally – that’s hard work.

It’s most difficult to listen when people talk about things you don’t want to hear, things that challenge your worldview. Each year at Thanksgiving, with the Sun in Sagittarius – the sign of beliefs – many family tables are minefields, as we tap dance around topics that we know will invite controversy. The December 3, 2017 Full Moon falls in Gemini, the sign of enthusiastic chatter as well as attentive listening. It falls a couple of weeks too late to lend conversational sparkle to your Thanksgiving celebration, but in plenty of time to deconstruct it. How much loving attention were you able to muster for the bombastic uncle, the long-winded grandmother, the cousin’s  political tangent? Were you too busy trying to be heard to really listen to anybody else?

When we give up pretending that we know everything, we free ourselves to learn from what other people have to say. And if we turn off the cell phone and stop texting for two minutes, we might notice that the woman sitting next to us in the doctor’s waiting room looks scared to death and might be grateful for someone to talk to. Listening – that simple gift of attention and love, like holding open a door for someone leaving a store as you’re entering – makes the world feel a little kinder, a little more civilized.

In public, watching everyone around me texting away and ignoring everyone else, and I wonder how in the world they ever met the people they’re texting with. Cell phones have become like little force fields we carry to neutralize exposure to strangers. They allow us to tune out the raucous conversation of the young men loitering on the corner, but also to ignore the old woman asking for directions to the bus. We are in worlds of our own, jealously calibrating the flow of conversation that has the power to lubricate the gears of a trying world.

The world and its people can indeed be trying, and perhaps we can be forgiven for taking refuge behind the white noise of iPods and banal cell phone conversations. Too easily, though, inattention becomes a habit that persists even at home among those we love, and that’s a problem. Love, as Peck notes, is not just a feeling, but a verb. It’s something we do, a bit of spiritual theater we enact through actions large and small. And listening, even when we don’t feel like it, is a small but powerful act of love. That’s what my friend recognized that day in the car, when her unwillingness to listen made her son cry. She took the lesson to heart, and made up her mind from that day on to give her bright boy the gift of her listening.

The Sun’s annual passage through Sagittarius blesses us with insight into our most cherished convictions. When we tap into our Sagittarius power, we may feel the urge to proselytize about our beliefs; caught up in our own thoughts, we are likely to forget that others see the world quite differently. The Full Moon in Gemini reminds us, simply, that listening – bearing witness to another’s reality – is a sacred thing and a loving act. Listening connects us to one another – and it enriches not only those who are listened to, but also those who listen to them.

©2002, 2017 April Elliott Kent

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Conscious Acts

Elizabeth Blaycock

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

8 Simple Ways To Reach A Higher Vibration

By, Jenna Wylie

We all have times where life isn’t clear and we feel like we’re walking through mud. Here are a few tips to help us find more happiness and fulfillment, and make it through the ups and downs!

1. Sleep

Now for those of us who aren’t mentally on top of our game, sleep (too much or the inability to sleep at all) may be a nightly battle. A few tips to more restful sleep:

  • Spend time earthing every day. This means getting your bare feet in contact with the ground. The earth’s energy is very healing and there is a lot of evidence that when we connect with the earth our circadian rhythm becomes more normalized, thus helping us sleep and wake up at healthy times. You can even make or buy grounding pads to sleep on to maximize the benefits of earthing.
  • Create a good sleep environment. Cool and dark works best for most people. Try to keep your room as free of electronics as possible. There is evidence that EMF’s can be a cause of insomnia and sleeping disorders. Turn your phone on airplane mode and leave your computer in another room or away from the bed. Be aware of walls with lots of hidden wires, or smart meters on the outside wall of your bedroom.
  • Before you go to sleep, write down everything that is on your mind. List the things that are bothering you or that you’re worried about or just the thoughts that won’t leave you alone. A ‘brain dump’ so to speak, that you can leave on your nightstand to think about tomorrow.

2. Spend Time Outside

It is easy to hide away indoors when we are feeling ‘off’ but going outside and spending time in nature can be soothing and very healing.

Whether it’s going for a walk, playing an outdoor sport, or simply splattering yourself out on the lawn (my personal favorite,) reconnect with mother earth to find inner peace.

3. Hang with the Right People

“You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with.”

Even on my lowest days, my husband always manages to poke through my walls and make me laugh. His ability to love me on any kind of day gives me safety and support that is priceless.

 We are deeply entangled with the people around us. It is so important to spend our time with people who bring balance and don’t constantly drain our energy or fill us with negativity.

Sometimes this means letting go of someone. Spend your time with those who lift you up, love you, and encourage you to be your true self.

4. Get in this MOMENT

“The secret to change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new”

~ Socrates~

In his book ‘The Screwtape Letters,’ C.S. Lewis tells of letters written from a senior Demon Screwtape to his nephew Woodworm, a junior ‘tempter.’ Woodworm is responsible for the undoing or damnation of a certain human referred to as ‘The Patient.’

One of the demons’ tactics is to keep The Patient focusing constantly on the past or future. They know that if they successfully keep him from thinking about the moment, if he is consistently stuck on things in past or future, he will never be able to accomplish what is important in the now.

Do what it takes to let go of the past. Who you are today is more important than anything you have been, and will determine who you will be. Learn how to pull yourself back into the present.

5. Be Honest

A lot of anxiety and sadness comes when we lie to ourselves or those around us. This also applies to times when we ‘hide’ from those we love out of fear. The truth is, people who truly love us will keep loving us no matter what.

It is easier in the end to be honest and upfront with those close to us than to bury ourselves behind a good face.

I heard once that we all have three selves: who we are when we’re alone, who we are when we’re with close friends/family, and who we are when we’re in the general public.

The closer these three selves come together, the happier and more content we will be. We need to learn to to be true to ourselves, to be free, and to give others the same privilege.

6. Find Your Confidence

When depression sets in, when anxiety wrings you dry, when you’re in a fog and just aren’t sure of anything anymore… breathe. Remember that you are a piece of the universe. You are one with the stars and the galaxies and the birds above your rain clouds.

Look deep inside and find that connection with God or the Universe or Mother Earth, and know that you are not alone. This moment of dark won’t last.

Feel what needs to be felt and then hold your chin up and face your demons with power. This life is yours. Though your mind and ego may seem to hold the reins, in reality they belong to you and you are the master.

7. Balance Your Chakras

A lot of instability emotionally comes from your energy being unbalanced. This can happen for many reasons, and is often subconscious until you pay specific attention.

Balancing your chakras is an excellent way to meditate, clear muddy energy, process emotions that are stuck, and become more in tune with yourself. Here is a simple method I’ve found effective:

  • You can do this anywhere anytime but I’ve found it is easiest if you are somewhere comfortable where you can relax. Lay down or lean back in your chair.Take some deep breathes and try to let go of external distractions. Focus on your breathing and on feeling your body.
  • Let yourself focus on your energy. It surrounds you, runs through you, and is in constant motion. It is connected with the earth and the universe and everything that is in you.
  • Start at the bottom and either physically or in your mind hold your hand over the chakra, and move it clock-wise motion with the flow of energy. This is more about feeling than thinking. Focus on the flow and whether or not it feels fluid and clear. If not, focus on the imbalance. Is there physical discomfort? Thoughts or images that come up? Accept, process, and continue in motion with the energy until it is clear.
  • Move up to the next chakra and repeat. Continue until you’ve gone through each chakra individually.

For more specifics about the chakras, please see here.

8. Spend Some Time With an Animal

Who doesn’t feel better after cuddling a puppy? Or having a kitten on their lap? Or even getting to hold a big reptile? For me, almost nothing compares to being with horses.

Their beauty and power have always touched a deep place inside of me. Animals, because they accept and love us so easily, have great ability to help us accept ourselves and experience healing. Go play with a pet!

Here’s to all of us and our journey and the growth that comes with it. May we find in ourselves our greatest potential and happiness!

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Inner Child Challenge

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Inner Child work has popped up here and there lately, so I take it as a sign that this may be an opportune time for me to do some more of it. I would really love to have you all join in the sharing of your techniques and experiences. This challenge like the others, is to link this post, or blog in your post with the prompt, Inner Child. What, or how you express it, is fully up to you. I heard once, and it really resonated, “Everyone you meet is a 3 year old child.” Whether or not that is true, I don’t know, but when we compassionately look at someones inner 3 year old child, almost anything can be forgiven. I look forward to nurturing, healing, laughing, and playing with all your inner children. Challenge will run 8/6 thru 8/16, once we have post up and linked, as usual I will link here. ❤

To kick it off I will start by sharing Dr. Len’s, Ho’oponopono Inner Child technique.

Here is my Inner Child Playlist on YouTube.

First up is Dr. Len

Inner Child Meditations

Lets Play & Namaste

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 Ho’ oponopono Prayer Meditation

Mirror, mirror on the wall? Ms. Judy Moon recently titled a post on her blog Wellness Seeds. Although Judy has not chosen to opt into the “Let’s Go Retro Challenge” I am opting her in. lol

Judy talk about Louise Hay’s Mirror Technique, where you look into the mirror and say, “I love you!” or any number of positive and affirming things. Judy was beginning a 30 day dedication to this technique, and I thought, “What a great idea!” So. . . I propose a challenge within a challenge, wrapped inside a challenge. Okay I got carried away there. But starting tomorrow, June 1, I am going to commit to do this mirror work. Why not? Right? For some reason combining this with the Ho’ oponopono Prayer comes to mind. I love to do metaphysical experiments, for example, “affirmations,” if you do them diligently you get results, I have done this on 3 different occasions in my life. So as a metaphysical experiment I commit to doing this and Qigong. I have been doing Qigong but I have missed a day here and there. That won’t do. 30 days to create a habit. Let’s see what happens.

~Let’s Go Retro Challenge~

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Source Of Desire

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  What is your true source of desire?

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The Source and Goal of Desire

CENTERING THOUGHT

My true self contains every possibility.

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My Being is without beginning or end.

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Follow Your Dreams

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This is a wonderful and positive article I came across this morning.

10 Habits of People Who Follow Their Dreams

By Esra Sam

1. They see challenges as opportunities

Most people interpret fears as obstacles and tend to run away from them. People who live their purpose successfully have developed the capacity to see fear as a sign of what they really need to go for and put all their courage and energy into it.

2. They see life as a game.

Having this vision of life opens up space for playfulness and creativity instead of limitation. This also cultivates qualities of resilience, problem solving and confidence that helps them take risks to get to the next big place.

3. Living the life they want is the only option.

They’re so committed to making their dreams a reality that they banish any possibility of a backup plan whatsoever from their mind. They don’t think things like, “If it doesn’t work, I’ll just go get a job.”

4. They always speak their truth.

They’re able to speak it because they make a conscious effort to connect to their truest desires, their inner voice, and their spirituality without fear of judgment. This connection is typically fostered through meditation, journaling, being mentored and being surrounded by like minded-people.

5. They aren’t just dreamers: they act on their desires.

Instead of getting stuck in their dreams, they snap right into action, no matter what it takes. Whether it’s quitting a job, getting out of a relationship that holds them back, investing in themselves or moving to a new location, they have the courage to do it. They do this by listening to, and then acting on, their intuition.

6. They expect and know that they deserve the best.

They expect that what they want is going to happen as if it were an inner-knowing. They expect and feel they deserve to earn well, do what they love, serve others using their gifts. The secret is that they still expect the best even when they don’t have all the answers as to how it’s going to happen.

7. They have no fear or guilt when asking for what they want.

Because they’re so connected to their passions, they aren’t afraid to ask for what they want. In fact, they understand that their success depends on others, so asking for what they want is part of the deal. They set their boundaries and express their needs without fear, guilt or shame. Best of all, this is a trait that earns them respect from others.

8. They create their own rules.

They create their own rules instead of fitting into society’s norms. They make decisions from a place of what they want to have instead of what they think they can have. This gives them the freedom to design their destiny.

9. They’ve learned to be comfortable being uncomfortable.

They don’t get stuck in having all the answers, making things perfect or trying to gain comfort by controlling everything. Instead, they’re aware that they’re not going to see the next step until they make the decision to move forward despite the discomfort.

10. They have teachers, mentors and role models.

Having teachers increases their awareness. They clearly understand that each time they’re getting ready to pursue their dreams all their limitations are going to come up to the surface so that they can let go of them. Having role models and mentors helps them quickly identify where they’re stuck so that they can immediately change their results.

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Love you

Namaste

Sindy

11 Day Clearing~ Self Doubt

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Day 1

On our little 11 day odyssey there are many things we can look into clearing, I am going to begin with self doubt. I would imagine that this is going to have some form of fear as its origin. We have so many hidden fears that flavor our psyches, and our inner emotional closets. “Why doesn’t he love me?” Yeah, I am going to start there. Well the answer is, It doesn’t matter. Why don’t I love myself? Now that is a better question. Sometimes I think I do, but do I really? Yesterday I did what I like to call, Divination via iTunes. That’s right. You set your intention for a message and then shuffle all your songs. Madonna, I like to call Madge, sang to me, “Don’t go for second best baby…” I heard her. I am the best! I am a sexy, goddess. I am smart. I am kind. I am funny. I am talented.

I AM That I AM~ I Am Brahman~ Such is the Truth

Okay, not meaning to sound arrogant but I really don’t lack confidence on the surface, but I have abandonment issues because, for starters, my father did not want to be a father, and said so. That hurt, that still hurts. Little Sindy is very sad, she wanted her daddy to love her, he didn’t. It appears I am going to carry this theme through until I clear it. So let’s clear up that issue. Taking it out of the psychological closet and looking at it, it seems I think it still has some value as I keep putting it back in there. I am not a victim! I have never been, or will I ever be a victim. My being chose this for me to overcome this, to transmute this challenge. So I am really not sure how to clear it, because I have tried. I have written letters to my dad and tossed them into the Pacific ocean from a boat . Oh he is dead by the way. He died when he was like 53. I shed a few tears out of a sense of propriety but I really didn’t care. He wasn’t mean or abusive, he just didn’t love me, didn’t protect me, oh well, not a victim, not a victim. lol

“Respect Yourself…Hey, hey.”

So today, I will reinforce my value to myself, or rather to my Being and to my Life Purpose. Still not sure what that is either?

Prana Meditation by Laura Evans

A physical clearing that many of you are probably aware of is a salt/baking soda bath. I do this and also use a crystal to skim my body and cut energetic cords. So Day 1, a bit personal but it’s about clearing.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my Mom, who is so beautiful, kind, funny, classy, stylish, and really awesome! I might not have had a dad that loved me, but I gave myself an incredible mother!

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Namaste

Sindy

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